The manager of a free debt counselling service is asking local families to have an honest conversation about their household finances in the first few months of 2018.
The advice comes from Jill Ewbank, the manager of the Oxford CAP Debt Centre, run by five Oxford churches in partnership with award-winning UK charity Christians Against Poverty (CAP).
Jill Ewbank said: “Money is still the taboo subject, we talk about everything else, but nothing causes friction in relationships like money, or the lack of it.
“With the squeeze on family finances getting ever tighter, it’s important for the sake of your health, happiness and your family life to talk about money.”
She added that she and her centre team provide home visits for local people affected by debt, along with ongoing support until each person is debt free. CAP’s head office negotiates with creditors and creates a workable budget for each client.
Eight in ten CAP clients in a relationship said debt had caused arguments, with almost a third saying that money problems caused a complete relationship break down.
Jill said: “That is why CAP has produced these tips to help people talk about money, and hopefully help people avoid financial heartache.
“Of course for some people these tips don’t work, if that is you and you’re not sure about how to make ends meet this year give us a call.”
CAP’s top tips for having “the money conversation” are:
Pick a time when things are quiet at home and no one is dealing with any immediate stresses.
Avoid the conversation when the children are around, your mum-in-law is visiting or a big bill has just landed.
Agree that you want to make it a year when you get on top of the finances together and that the money conversation isn’t about blaming anyone.
Acknowledge that money management can be hard, especially when stressed, or if you’re on a low income. Mistakes may have been made but this is about looking forward.
Remember your attitudes to money might be very different. Past experiences can shape these but you can play to each other’s strengths.
Decide on a shared goal you want to aim for, like a day out, a holiday or a new car or just a “getting back in the black” celebration. This will happen twice as fast if you’re in it together.
Use one of the many online tools – or book into one of the hundreds of free CAP Money Courses – to begin to build your budget.
If you have debts, don’t delay in getting help from a free debt counselling agency like Christians Against Poverty, Stepchange, National Debtline, Citizens Advice, Payplan, the Money Advice Service or, if you’re self employed, Business Debtline.
Make payday the day you review how it’s all going and make adjustments to the budget where necessary.
Avoid credit wherever possible and begin to save as soon as you can, even if it is a small regular amount.
To request help visit capuk.org or call 0800 328 0006